you know the love yourself first bi- man am i tired of hearing that one!! So i am off in the fuckin woods workin on it :). I do think thats the key - making yourself someone you love then there is no need to change or alter for anyone and then its the patience thang - when you got yourself to a point where you like finding (or letting someone find you) that likes the same traits you like in yourself. Ive always had more partners to choose from when i was just being myself and not giving a shit what anyone thought, when i tried to "make" a relationship - i usually could but always to my expence.